Marriage is a part of every one’s life. Especially in young India, it seems everyone is getting married or they are planning to get married, those who are already married are left with only one job and that is, attending other’s wedding. If somehow, some people are left, then they become the ones who arrange weddings! The underlining thought is that, these days not even a single person exists who have time to write about this genetically transferred disease from our ancestors to us and commonly called “Marriage” to guide singles. So I’ll, myself take this pain to write something about it.
It is said, marriages are made in heaven. And, we all know, in heaven everything is good and perfect! If this is true, then why we have things like divorce? Don’t you think existence of something called ‘divorce’ proves that even God in the heaven makes mistake. Now, how can God make a mistake? I think, with increasing population, workload involving tying of knots in the heaven has also increased many fold. Imagine, millions of people are waiting in heaven with their application in their hands (before coming to this earth) for whom God has yet to decide a perfect match, balancing their likes and dislikes, so that they won’t quarrel on small things like where they should go for honeymoon, when they should have a baby, what should be the name of that baby and things alike. Finding a perfect combination in millions of humans, each having wide and distinct range of characteristics, forming millions of couples among them, is a gigantic task. As God do not use super-computers for the processing of their applications, anarchy like situation is created in heaven and in such anarchic situations even God makes wrong decisions and tie your knot with a wrong person. But, being a firm believer in God and in his supernatural abilities, I will see, even divorce in a positive manner. Actually, divorce gives two incongruent people one more chance to find a congruent partner for them and also helps two lawyers to earn their bread, clothing, shelter and a 4-wheel drive suv!
You may think, why I am writing soo much about divorces, even when I am unmarried and still I have to go through a marriage to even thing about a divorce. Well, the reason is…
Contrary to a general belief, day by day increasing number of divorces and stories of failed marriages creates stress and anxiety more among singles then married couples. I am saying this because all such stories creates huge pressure on singles to be extremely cautious in searching the person with whom his or her knot was actually tied by God in heaven, as a wrong decision in this matter will make them loose a major part of their youthful life in fighting a lost battle in court.
As if, all this was not enough, one more thing which keeps bugging singles is when to get married? The question may sound simple, but it’s really difficult to decide exactly when one should get married. Keeping things simple, I think, correct time to get married in this highly inflationary economy is when your best friend is also getting married.
Now, please don’t give wings to your imagination, I am not saying this because it will save you money but because of some other reason. Read further to know my reasoning…
From the day your best friend finds his soul mate, he changes completely! Now, if you call him and ask him to accompany you for a movie, he will add to your knowledge that the movie is not worth watching and he knows this because he has already seen that movie, first day first show with the so called species “soul mate”. Listening this, you say,
“ok, then let’s go for a drive”. To which your friend agrees.
The worst part is, now he will come with his “soul mate”, sitting on the front seat with him. You have no option left, other than taking a back seat. This “soul mate” of your best friend from the first day itself starts making effort to strike you off from the life of her “soul mate”. She actually declares a cold war against you, about which your best friend is not even aware. Moreover, if she loves watching television serials directed by Ekta Kapoor then even God can’t save you, as these serials will give her enough training in planning and plotting against you. You will be left with only one option and that is to stop expecting the quantity and the quality time your best friend used to spend with you.
Sudden exit of your best friend from your life creates a vacuum. Now this will be the best time to start looking for your own soul mate and take a decision to get married. The only problem in this scheme is that if your best friend has also read this, then both of you will keep waiting for the other person to change completely. And both of you may end up living a life on the lines of India’s ex-Prime Minister Mr. Atal Bihari Vajpayee and the President during his time Mr. A. P. J. Abdul Kalam (to remind you, both are still single!).
The word marriage seems to be a synonym for complexity. Every single step towards getting married is full of life threatening situations. But, seeing in reference with the Darwin’s principle “the fittest survive”, the institution called marriage has survived since human being started living and organizing large human societies. No doubt, the road leading to marriage takes you through a bumpy ride, but don’t you think that’s what makes it interesting?
